Supporting friends: 5 things you could say/do to someone who has an eating disorder
- Aimee Wilson
- Feb 9, 2017
- 2 min read
It’s a common concern for people to not know how to act around someone with an eating disorder. You don’t want to word something wrong or trigger someone, but want to make sure you’re there for them without being patronising or over the top. Although this isn’t a simple task and will be different to everyone, here’s some quick tips to maybe help you out.
Reassure them. Make it clear that you might not understand what they’re going through but they’re not alone. Tell them that if they ever need a little chat and someone to talk to, you’re there for them, even if it’s just for listening to a little rant now and then.
Be patient. Everyone knows wonders don’t happen over night and everyone is at different stages whether it’s a newly diagnosed mental health or nearing the end of their rehabilitation journey.
Encourage them to seek help. Don’t act as if you’re the professional and can give them advice, you’re there to support them through this journey and for this they need professional help to move forward. Say that you would be happy to go with them if they want company so they know they’re not alone.
Avoid commenting on their weight. The “you look good” in your mind may be different in theirs. It’s easier to draw attention away from weight as saying you look healthier could come across to them as if they have put on lots of weight which they don’t want to, and therefore may make the whole process go backwards and repeat itself. Consider commenting on personality or clothes instead to boost self-esteem.
Communicate any concerns you may have about them. If you suggest they should go and see someone understand that they may not react as openly towards the idea as you’d like them to, as things take time and the initial idea of needing some professional help may be scary to them at first.
Overall, just be there for them and be the great friend you are. Positive people is fundamentally what they need the most during this time. Your support and loyal people by their side could make a huge difference, even if it doesn’t seem it.
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